The Happy, Single Life
I strongly believe that the worlds of love and dating are increasingly in danger of extinction. I've said this before, and I firmly stand by it, now more than ever.
As you look around in today’s dating world, more and more people are deciding that it’s more trouble than it’s worth and have chosen to just be alone. Being single has now become a personal preference for many and an actual flex to demonstrate one's power as an individual. Somehow, it's become more cool to be in peace and love with yourself, than being in a relationship with all it's possible toxicity.
Now, most of you couples out there reading this will find this impossible to believe, but if any of you have single friends or family members, just ask them. They'll tell you the truth about what's going on in the world. Simply put, dating in today's world has become a complicated and often frustrating experience. It seems that many people are more interested in playing games and avoiding commitment than in building meaningful relationships. This has led to a rise in the number of people who are comfortable being alone and who are very happy to avoid the pressure, heartache, and disappointment that often come with dating.
One of the biggest challenges in dating today is the proliferation of dating apps and websites. These platforms have made it easier than ever to meet new people, but they have also made it harder to find someone who is truly interested in a serious relationship. Many people use dating apps as a way to pass the time or to boost their egos rather than to find a genuine connection. This has led to a culture of superficiality and insincerity, where people are more interested in swiping through profiles than getting to know someone on a deeper level.
Another issue is the lack of clear communication and boundaries in dating. With so many people looking for different things, it can be difficult to know what someone's intentions are. This can lead to disappointment and hurt feelings, as well as confusion about what to expect from a relationship.
It's no wonder that people today don't want to bother with these challenges. Instead, people are quite content being alone, happy, and fulfilled in their single lives. They find joy in their own company and take pleasure in pursuing their own interests and passions. They don't feel the need to conform to societal pressure to be in a romantic relationship and instead find happiness in their own way.
Now, it's important to remember that everyone's journey to finding happiness is different. There was a time when being single was a curse and something to be ashamed of, but not anymore. It's important to remember that being in a relationship is not the only path to happiness. Being single and content with yourself is becoming more common, and there's nothing to fear. It’s incredible that some people find love and complete their happiness in a romantic relationship, but if that’s not you, that’s ok. You don’t need to be in a relationship to be whole or happy. You can very well find it in your own company. In fact, I think it’s a much better path to be happy on your own first before entering into something with someone else. If you don’t know what makes you rare and special, what makes you laugh or be scared, or how you want to be loved, then you can’t ever tell someone else. And isn't that the beauty of it all? Knowing yourself so well that you can share exactly who you are with someone else, I think so. How else can you ever teach someone how to respect or love you properly?
To date or not to date? That always seems to be the question. But, regardless of how you choose to live your life, it's important to be true to yourself and to focus on what makes you happy. Dating in today's world can be challenging, but it's important to communicate clearly and set boundaries, and to remember that it's not about the quantity of relationships but the quality of them. And if all else fails, it's okay to just be happy being on your own.
Finding love can be a daunting and overwhelming task, especially in today's fast-paced and ever-changing world. It's not uncommon to feel like giving up on the search for a soulmate and instead focusing on living a fulfilling and happy life as a single person. However, for some, the thought of being alone forever can be a scary one.
I feel as though I am at a crossroads myself. On one hand, I really want to find true love someday, but on the other, it’s just not worth all the fuss, especially in today’s dating world. I feel like I have finally learned to love and give myself so much, that no one else could ever possibly come along and do a better job. And I think that's such a beautiful thing. What could be more rewarding than knowing how to love yourself fully and completely? I have become my full self all alone. There is no "better half". I am the best whole there ever was!
It’s much more fulfilling to be everything for yourself than to pour faith, trust, and hope into another person who will ultimately disappoint you and break your heart. I know it’s not a very positive way to look at love, but honestly, that is exactly how I feel sometimes. I don't want anyone to come along and fuck with my peace.
I don't feel pain anymore. I no longer feel like I must carry my phone around because I’m waiting for him to call me. My days aren’t automatically filled with dread when he doesn’t. I don’t spend countless hours wracking my brain trying to figure out why men do the things they do. I don’t cry to my girlfriends about why he didn’t show up or text again, like he said he would. I no longer feel less than.
I know that it sounds like I’ve been through a lot of drama-filled situations with many toxic individuals, doesn’t it? To be honest, I have. The sadder truth is that the dating scene is absolutely filled with them, and most of us are just done with it. We aren't having it anymore!
I used to be obsessed with the idea of finding the right person to share my life with. I spent countless hours swiping through dating apps, going on disappointing dates, and feeling like I was never going to find the one. But as time went on, I began to realize that the constant search for love was taking a toll on my mental and emotional well-being. I was so focused on finding the perfect person that I was missing out on the beauty and joy of living in the present moment.
Now, as I look back on my journey, I can see that my obsession with finding love was holding me back. It honestly took a lot from my life. I was so focused on finding the right person that I overlooked the importance of being the right person for myself. I was constantly looking for love, validation and acceptance from others, rather than finding it within myself.
I've come to realize that being single and happy is not something to fear. It's a beautiful thing to be comfortable in your own skin and to be content with your own company. I've learned to appreciate my own bed, my free time, my space, and my peace. And when I think about having to share those things with someone, I’m no longer in a hurry to do so like I once was. Today, I am honestly so happy being in my own company, and the company of friends and loved ones. Most days, this is all the love I need.
Of course, I’m excited about the possibility of finding someone with whom I can share my life someday, but I’m looking for the right person. It’s not about rushing into a relationship or settling for the first person who comes along. It's about being patient and taking the time to get to know yourself and what you truly want in a partner. It's about being open and receptive to new experiences and new people, but also being okay with the idea that the right person might not come along for a while and being okay with that.
The idea of being single and happy can be scary, but it doesn't have to be. It's no longer a punishment, but rather a gift. I haven’t been single much in my life, and being single and happy? Well, that’s absolutely never happened until now. I’m happy that I got the opportunity to change my perspective on things. Perhaps now I will eventually find the right person who will have the privilege of walking with me in this life.
Until then, as some famous lyrics say, "I can buy myself flowers, write my name in the sand, talk to myself for hours, take myself dancing, and I can hold my own hand." I can love me better than you can."
It's important to remember that finding love is not a race and that true love takes time and patience. It's also important to remember that being single and happy is not something to be ashamed of. It's about being true to yourself and learning to love and appreciate yourself first.
For those of you out there still struggling with this realization, you'll get there, I promise. Hell, it only took me 49 years.