When it comes to dating, we all have a laundry list of things that we look for in a partner. Before we even get to know someone, we've already created some expectations in our minds about the things we want and definitely about the things we don't. Some of these expectations have come from past relationships, while others stem from behaviors we've witnessed in other couples. Then, there is also the matter of dating deal-breakers vs. relationship deal-breakers. You know, the things that you can easily dismiss when first dating someone, but will make you want to pull your hair out after month 6 or 7. Last but not least, the infamous male vs. female deal-breakers. Do they even exist? Are there actually things that differ between the sexes?
What are your deal-breakers when it comes to dating/relationships?
Are there some things you can overlook at the beginning, but can't as time goes on?
Does the list differ between men and women?
We cannot wait to hear your responses!
I believe that in general men and women do have the same core values such as respect and trust, for me are my two big ones.In the beginning obviously there has to be an attraction to even make the initial meeting.With this being said communication adds a huge factor in how long a relationship will last because after meeting someone for the first time and saying hello you can only bask in their beauty for so long. I look at it in a different perspective because having three sisters and being the only boy and also having a mother that passed away at a very young age they showed me what women want in a man or at least what they wanted in a man.This may seem shallow or strange but I always looked at my woman in the way that if I am not embarrassed of holding her hand and walking down the street with her then your opinion of what she looks like is of no concern to me. Recently coming out of a marriage of 29 1/2 years things have definitely changed out there but my core values will always stay the same.Respect,trust,honesty and communication are my core values and are non negotiable at any stage of the relationship.I would rather be hit hard by the truth over being caressed by your lies. When meeting someone because of their appearance and your brain starts to activate on how you can change that person why bother.Go find the person that’s in your head.Thank you for your time.
Giacomo